Ya know, together together.
There’s a hilarious article at AlterNet that offers up the legal definition of “dating” but gets us no closer to telling the difference between “dating”, “seeing each other”, “involved”, or “in a relationship.” I have my own ideas. Do you?
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lemme break it down:
dating: consisting of one or more lunch to dinner dates. Kisses goodnight acceptable. First base a given. One or both parties dating other people.
seeing each other: Bases 2 and possibly 3 have been rounded. Strong consideration about choosing between various dating people. Toothbrushes may be present.
involved: bases fully rounded. although you are not necessarily committed, you are not seeing any other people. Clothes have exchanged residences
relationship: what size ring do you wear again?
lemme break it down:
dating: consisting of one or more lunch to dinner dates. Kisses goodnight acceptable. First base a given. One or both parties dating other people.
seeing each other: Bases 2 and possibly 3 have been rounded. Strong consideration about choosing between various dating people. Toothbrushes may be present.
involved: bases fully rounded. although you are not necessarily committed, you are not seeing any other people. Clothes have exchanged residences
relationship: what size ring do you wear again?
I beg to differ:
“Involved” = We’ve hooked up, plan on doing so again but havent figured out if we’re committed to only hooking up with one another.
“seeing each other” = Essentially the same as dating except it sounds less “Happy Days-ish”. An oddly exaggerated term as I heard someone say yesterday “I’ve been seeing this guy for two years.” After two years, don’t you move past “seeing each other?”
“Dating” = We go on excursions that normally end in hooking up but don’t have to. We’re not committed to only dating one another, unless said so (there’s a gender fault line there, I fear)
I beg to differ:
“Involved” = We’ve hooked up, plan on doing so again but havent figured out if we’re committed to only hooking up with one another.
“seeing each other” = Essentially the same as dating except it sounds less “Happy Days-ish”. An oddly exaggerated term as I heard someone say yesterday “I’ve been seeing this guy for two years.” After two years, don’t you move past “seeing each other?”
“Dating” = We go on excursions that normally end in hooking up but don’t have to. We’re not committed to only dating one another, unless said so (there’s a gender fault line there, I fear)
I’m with Kevin on this one–
“Dating” implies both people make plans to see one another, do things together, and leave no doubt that something’s going on.
“Seeing each other” is a little more casual but implies repeated actions.
“Together” and “We’re a couple” is more serious and exclusive, usually said after time has set in.
“Involved” however, is ambiguous since it’s such an overused word. Also it’s a fallback word when people don’t know how to define what they’re in.
I’m with Kevin on this one–
“Dating” implies both people make plans to see one another, do things together, and leave no doubt that something’s going on.
“Seeing each other” is a little more casual but implies repeated actions.
“Together” and “We’re a couple” is more serious and exclusive, usually said after time has set in.
“Involved” however, is ambiguous since it’s such an overused word. Also it’s a fallback word when people don’t know how to define what they’re in.